What is coaching?
There are a wide variety of styles of coaching so this answer might vary depending on which coach you ask.
My approach aligns closely with the overarching view of Coaching from the International Coaching Federation (ICF):
“partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential... Coaches honour the client as the expert in his or her life and work, and believe every coachee is creative, resourceful and whole. Standing on this foundation, the coach’s responsibility is to:
- Discover, clarify and align with what the coachee wants to achieve
- Encourage coachee self-discovery
- Elicit coachee-generated solutions and strategies
- Hold the coachee responsible and accountable”
I come to all of my clients with a non-judgemental, empathetic, supportive and curious mindset. We all have the resources in us to make changes and coaching can help us identify those resources. The mind that holds the problem, also holds the solution - often the best one! I help my clients think for themselves rather than do the thinking for them.
Coaching is generally forward looking, with occasional glances to past events (if needed), only to help unlock and mobilise thought processes for the client.
What coaching isn’t
Coaching is different from therapy, counselling, mentoring and training.
Coaches should not provide answers, unless specifically agreed with the client. I am not the expert in my client’s life or work so I will not presume to be or respond as if I am.
A solution or goal that feels right for the coach might not be the right one for the client. Only the client knows what is right for them.
I do not push my clients to regularly explore past events in detail.