Why should we care about resilience?
Change and setbacks happen all of the time to everyone, in our lives, our work, the world! We can't stop it happening.
So what would happen if you can accept and embrace that?
Research shows that increasing your or your team’s resilience will mean:
You will better manage stress
You are less likely to feel defeated when faced with a challenge
You will feel more energised
You are less likely to be sick
You are less likely to work overly long hours
You are less likely to leave your job
What is resilience?
Resilience, in its essence, is about being able to successfully adapt to change.
To be a resilient individual, leader or team means you need a reservoir of resources and energy to draw on to enable you to adapt comfortably to obstacles and setbacks, maybe even to embrace and enjoy them! So, let's take that idea of the reservoir and expand it out.
We all regularly need to direct resources and energy into various things, be it mental, physical, emotional, or any other type. Imagine this is a river flowing away from your reservoir. Great! But, the challenge is that there are often rocks in the river.
What are these rocks? They could be any unexpected change, set-back or obstacle that we all encounter on a daily basis, some very tiny and some much bigger. It might be that there is no milk for your tea, or it might be a significant financial issue or illness.
If your reservoir of energy and resources is low, then the water will struggle to get over the rocks and even the small ones will seem much bigger. Getting over them leaves you feeling drained of energy.
If you can regularly top up your resilience reservoir then it can be high enough that when it flows out it will easily flow over the rocks in the river, even the bigger ones.
What is resilience coaching?
Either working together one to one, or in a workshop format, I create a safe, fun and encouraging space to help you understand and explore resilience.
The format and content will vary according to what challenges you might be facing and what you want to achieve but I will help you to understand resilience theory and use specific tools and exercises to support your own resilience needs long after we work together.
You can expect to:
Understand why resilience is important
Understand what resilience means to you
Learn what drains and increases your energy
Understand what resources you already have
Have take aways to use to support your resilience
There is no silver bullet for resilience, as what works for you might not work for someone else, so I invite you to come to this with an openness to explore what this means to you.
Why do you need this?
You’re are an individual:
You say yes to everything and never have time to do it all - busy, busy, busy
You don't reach out for help
You need people to like you
You find it hard to find time to do things for you, that make you feel good
You find your energy regularly dips and you struggle to focus
You’re part of a team:
You don’t have enough time to find long term solutions to problems and generally find quick, short term solutions instead
You see only a few people making most of the decisions
You see blame when things go wrong
You sense low energy and high pressure in you and those around you
None of these are unusual, but if you relate to any of these, or similar, then it is probably a sign that you would benefit from understanding and supporting your own or your team’s resilience.
So if you are excited about making positive changes and want to role model and inspire others with a 'better' way of doing things but don't know where to start, this is for you.
Why do I care about resilience?
For many years my own resilience reservoir was so depleted that I struggled with my focus, purpose and self belief, plus I also had health problems like depression, anxiety and psoriasis. The effect of this was that I couldn’t manage my levels of stress at work and in my personal life. Although this wasn't at all comfortable, I had resigned myself to this being the norm for me.
It wasn't until I learned about resilience that I realised that I was usually just coping with life rather than thriving and really enjoying myself. But, more importantly, that I could do something to change that.
Because of this understanding, and also through being coached, I started to understand what resources I needed more of to support my resilience - such as yoga, mindfulness and changes in diet - and I started to really focus on improving my physical and mental health. As a wonderful side effect of this I also discovered what I also wanted to do with my life, which was to become a coach myself.
It's not to say that I now lead a perfectly resilient life. I still feel stressed on occasion and sometimes forget to use my resources to support myself in the best way, but the huge difference is that I know what it feels like to be really resilient and what it takes to get me back there. I want to help others do the same.